More Fun, Less Fear

"Today I realized that I actually enjoy doing things by myself. My goal for 2014 and years on is to do at least one thing a week that I've never done before. I went thrifting and got tea alone, found 3 amazing gems, and made friends in fitting room hallways that would give honest opinions and vice versa...as bad as I wanted these shiny thread embroidered GORGEOUS shorts to fit, they made me look like I had a diaper on (nobody likes a chick in a diaper..and my "friend" told me straight). So I finally found my life resolution: To do whatever I want, be more independent, always enjoy the little things, and smile...a lot."

Suddenly, it hit me.  I realized I've missed out on so many things I really wanted to do, due to no one to go with, whether it was schedule conflicts or I just felt uncomfortable going alone since I wasn't familiar with the area.  Had I not decided to go yesterday, I would have missed out on black sequin harem pants...every girl needs a pair, right?...along with 2 other items I've been searching for.

Granted the tea thing may not be a big deal for many people, but the fact if the matter was that I had no idea what I was going to order or if I was even going to LIKE my drink.  I'm typically "I like to study the menu before I decide to go somewhere" type of person.  That's a decent accomplishment, a step out my boundaries and I enjoyed my bubble milk green tea very much.

 

I want to better myself and spending time focusing on insignificant matters is just a waste of life.  Every day, adventure and chance to live is a gift.  Meeting new people and learning new things is an adventure in itself, after all, if you never try, you'll live your life without knowing.

This year at least once a week, I'm going to go somewhere or do something I've never done before (insert a little influence from Breakfast at Tiffany's).  I plan to document every milestone, whether it's a new fitness class, new restaurant I've tried, new meal I prepared, and so on...This way, looking back a year for now, I can recall all the things I did and how far I have come.

.Here's to the New Year.

For me, as I'm sure it was for many others out there, 2013 was a year full of triumph, tribulation, discovery, and adventure.  As hard as some of the times were, it taught me a lot...to take the good with the bad, stay strong, keep your head above, and remember that no matter what you're going through, there are still those who genuinely care.

Overall, I’m not one for resolutions that can’t be kept.  Some people set their resolutions too high and are only left with disappointment and guilt when they're not achieved.  I like to think of my resolutions as more of goals to live by and ultimately, end up with the decision to be a better person than the year before.

Take better care of yourself:  physically and mentally
Whether it is taking your makeup off every night and using fancy schmancy skin care products religiously to not stressing out over missing a day at the gym.  The realization of when you need to stop, take a deep breath, nap, or could use a good laugh.

Pay closer attention to relationships with family and friends, the ones you can always depend on at the end of the day...Genuinely appreciate the time spent with them, because one day, you may not have the chance.

Read more.

Stress less...especially about petty things.  Stop and question if what you're getting worked up about is going to matter an hour, week, month, or year from now.

Be polite.  It was drilled in our heads as children to always say "please, thank you, and excuse me"  So many adults forget that these simple manners can go a long way.

Never miss the opportunity for a new adventure.

As hard as you try, sometimes you just can't do it all and will end up spreading yourself too thin...and as difficult as that can be to accept, it's occasionally the damn truth.

It's okay to be incredibly selfish now and again in order to focus on yourself and what you love.  After all, if you're not happy with yourself, you won't be happy with anyone.

As okay as it can be to be selfish, know when to be selfless.

Don't waste time on the people that don't matter-If they honestly want to spend time with you, they'll make time for you.

Be more kind than necessary.  The strongest people are sometimes fighting the hardest battles.

Get organized and better at time management.

Stop being so hard on yourself about things you can’t control.

Always, always be you and know that you are fabulous.

This list is full of great and attainable resolutions to live by in 2014...and it made me giggle a bit. 
25 New Year’s Resolutions Every Person Should Actually Make For 2014

Now, I'll leave you with some words of wisdom and wish you health, happiness, and for 2014 to be everything you could dream of and more.

xo,
Allison